Women Over 40 Rock! is on the move

We’ve changed our web address, but not our message. Still dedicated to celebrating the power and the beauty of women over 40, we are now located at:


Here you will be able to read all our new articles, as well as access all previous postings.

Be sure to Bookmark the new address for future reference, and sign up for our RSS Feed!

You can also find us by visiting InTheTrenchesProductions.com and clicking “Blog.” While at the website, take some time to watch our films and trailers, and participate in our forum.

As stated in a previous post, “Our Time Is Now”... don’t miss out on all the excitement!

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Note: This is the final post on our old address. All new articles will appear at the new site. Hope to see you there!

Posted by Mandy Crest, Blogger for In The Trenches Productions, The First Entertainment Website for Women over 40!

Published in: on March 30, 2008 at 3:13 pm  Comments (1)  
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Sandra Oh Supports SWAN Day Saturday March 29th

What on earth is SWAN day you might ask? Is it the day we pay tribute to really long necks or is it the day we pay homage to our beautiful feathered bird friends? Nope that is not it, even though long necks and swans definitely deserve our respect and praise.

No SWAN day is SUPPORT WOMEN ARTISTS NOW day! And this coming Saturday March 29th is the first Annual International SWAN Day!

We all need to support this new international holiday that celebrates women artists. As a symbol of international solidarity, over 100 SWAN Day events have been scheduled around the world. Even Sandra Oh is getting into the act with her inspiring SWAN Day Story

By focusing attention on the work of women artists, SWAN Day will help people imagine what the world might be like if women’s art and perspectives were fully integrated into all of our lives. The public is invited to attend SWAN Day events and to make donations to their favorite women artists. The long term goal of SWAN Day is to inspire communities around the world to find new ways to recognize and support women artists as a basic element of civic planning.

SWAN Day is a grassroots effort that is being coordinated by The Fund for Women Artists . Hats off to this wonderful organization and it’s founder Martha Richards. Everyone on the planet is invited to help create this new holiday!

And guess what! You don’t have to travel outside your city or even leave the comfort of your home to support SWAN Day. Just open up your laptop or start your computer and go to IN THE TRENCHES PRODUCTIONS (how’s that for good directions) and you will see the first entertainment website for women over 40. Check out films written, created, developed, produced, co-directed and edited by the 4 (over 40) women of In the Trenches Productions. They use their talent and creativity as filmmakers to create high quality short films that will resonate with women over 40 as well as entertain and inspire. They also use their acting artistry and sometimes star in the films. So support them and all the artists involved with their films and visit The In the Trenches Productions Entertainment Web Site to watch such fims as “Believe It Baby”, “The Forgotten Grave”, “Transitions”, A Host of Trouble”, and “Living Large with Less” as just one of your Swan Day Events.

For more information on Supporting Women Artists Now check out THE FUND FOR WOMEN ARTISTS and SWAN Day.

Lets make Saturday March 29th 2008 a turning point for Women Artists!

Debbie Zipp, blogger and shameless promoter for In the Trenches Productions
The First Entertainment Site for Women Over 40

“Staging Your Comeback: A Complete Beauty Revival for Women Over 45” by Christopher Hopkins, “The Makeover Guy®”

When it comes to clothing and make-up, we tend to fall into particular patterns by our mid-twenties. We’ve decided which clothes look best on us and we’ve perfected our hair and make-up. We know what works and we stick to it. And that is precisely the problem. We go through our thirties and well into our forties, failing to notice that our appearance has changed in subtle — and not so subtle ways. What once worked simply doesn’t anymore. Fear not, for help is on the way!

Having consulted with the likes of Lauren Holly, Hillary Clinton, Al Gore, Robert Wagner, and Stephanie Powers, among others, Christopher Hopkins now brings his dramatic makeover techniques to you in his new book, “Staging Your Comeback: A Complete Beauty Revival for Women Over 45,” now available on Amazon.com.

Christopher, known to millions of his fans as, “The Makeover Guy®,” works his magic, from hair and make-up to a customized wardrobe, helping you to find your own unique style… without spending thousands of dollars. You’ll learn the mistakes common to women over 45 and how to avoid them.

“We have been programmed to believe that something outside our control is responsible for how we look: genetics, aging, time. But now more than ever, we have the power to change and improve what Mother Nature handed us and continues to hand us. Anyone can look, feel, and live better than ever before. Opportunities for a new love, a new career, and a new life are literally at our fingertips. Who would have imagined that Raquel Welch would become the face of MAC cosmetics at age sixty-six, or that a first-time mother would birth twins at age sixty-seven? What was once unheard of is now common, and what was once accepted now seems archaic. For women today, anything is possible. By preparing yourself for the part, you can create the scene, however you want it played. You’re the star in your own show. It’s your turn.”

For a chance to enter Christopher’s drawing for FORTY BOOKS IN FORTY DAYS, register for the mailing list here.

In The Trenches Productions is proud to recommend “Staging Your Comeback: A Complete Beauty Revival for Women Over 45,” by Christopher Hopkins.

Posted by Mandy Crest, Blogger for In The Trenches Productions, The First Entertainment Website for Women over 40!


Here’s a nifty way to plan a fun get together with your women friends and re-live the pajama parties from your youth. I heard about this kind of party from a young woman I recently met. Every other month, she and her friends gather for an all day /overnight event. They cook up scrumptious dishes, drink great wine, gossip and watch films. A spin on this is to create your own DVD women’s film festival. The film line-up could be Best Actress Oscar winning performances, or an all female comedy night or a collection of films either written or directed by women. Plan the meals around the films. So, while serving up fantastic Italian dishes you could check out the wonderful divas of Italian cinema. I am planning my first PJ party/DVD women’s festival around my favorite Indian women film makers. For food, I’ll be whipping up a curried chicken salad. Ina Garten has a tasty recipe: Google – Ina Garten’s curried chicken salad. The films on my menu are: Mira Nair’s MONSOON WEDDING; Gurinder Chadha’s BRIDE AND PREJUDICE; and, Deepa Mehta’s WATER. These films will not disappoint and even a second viewing is a treat. I tell you a little about them since you may want to check them out.

MONSOON WEDDING is exquisitely shot and tells the story of an arranged marriage taking place in a well to do Delhi family. On the Mira Nair’s website, Mira Bai Films , the film is described as “….a love song to both old and new Delhi. It is also an exploration and celebration of Punjabi culture. Five interweaving stories are told in the four days and nights leading up to an elaborate upper-class wedding. Each story navigates different aspects of love, crossing boundaries of class, continent and morality.”

BRIDE AND PREJUDICE is a Bollywood take on the Jane Austin classic. There is much singing and dancing and the spirit of the film is positively exuberant. The color palate of the film is dazzling. Fans of the TV show “Lost” may be surprised to see Naveen Andrews cast as Mr. Darcy’s good friend, Mr. Bingley. In an interview in About.com, Naveen said he had to train 9 hours a day for about 40 weeks (surely an exaggeration) to learn the dance numbers which he described as, “…traditional Indian dance coupled with M.C. Hammer from the early ‘90s.” The singer Ashanti makes a cameo appearance and sings a song that has no connection to the plot. According to Gurinder Chadha, it is a traditional in Bollywood films for a celebrity to make such a cameo appearance and sing a song unrelated to the storyline.

WATER takes place in 1938 and it tells the story of 2 women who are living in a widows’ house. At that time, if a woman’s husband died she had 3 choices: to marry her husband’s younger brother, if his family permits; to kill herself on his funeral pyre; or, to live a life of celibacy, discipline, and solitude in a house with other widows. The movie follows the lives of two women. Chuyia, had been married to a much older man. When he dies, her family places her in a widows’ house where, despite being a pre-teen, she is expected to live out her days. As the film progresses, it is heartbreaking to watch Chuyia slowly realize that her mother is not coming to take her home. Kalyani, another widow, meets a handsome young man, who is a progressive thinker. He believes in a new law which, while unpopular, does allow widows to re-marry. But crossing the river to meet his family, Kalyani realizes that events in her past, tying her to her beloved’s father, may prevent her from marrying. This film, like the other two, is beautifully shot and the performances are outstanding.

By the way, here are some additional films directed by these very talented women. Other notable films by Mira Nair: VANITY FAIR, THE NAMESAKE, and SALAAM BOMBAY. Other notable films by Deepa Mehta: FIRE and 1947: EARTH – the other 2 films that make up a trilogy. Another notable film by Gurinder Chadha: BEND IT LIKE BECKHAM.

So, those are my party plans. I’ll happily take suggestions for future women’s DVD film festivals.

Jan Bina, blogger for In the Trenches Productions
First Entertainment Website for Women Over 40

Bear Stearns and Two Scary Little Words

Something very strange happened the other night on The Charlie Rose Show. It was a small moment but a very telling one. The show aired on 3/14/08. Charlie’s guest was Floyd Norris, the chief financial correspondent of The New York Times. Mr. Norris was discussing the Bear Stearns meltdown. Part of what he was saying, a very small but significant part, was seemingly censored. I repeat, seemingly. The sound drop-out was very clean and it didn’t sound like a technical snafu. So, my husband and I were very curious. What could a financial writer have said that would need to be bleeped? We had TIVOed the show, enabling us to play it back (many times) to try to figure out what was bleeped. We finally were able to read his lips and were stunned to learn what two words had been censored:
“Bank Run.”
He was talking about the fact that a rumor had started about the imminent collapse of Bear Stearns and how sometimes a rumor spreads like wildfire among panicky investors. This is a direct quote from what Mr. Norris said. “If you believed Bear Stearns financial statements, they’re worth a lot of money. The trouble is right now they can’t monetize that. They’ve got a real liquidity crisis. What they confronted this week was an old fashioned —- —.” And those two scary words, ‘bank run’, had been bleeped. BANK RUN. So, has it come to this? Is our media censoring financial writers when they tell it like it is? I suppose the reality of what is happening in our financial markets is terrifying enough without tossing out incendiary words like ‘bank run’. Mr. Norris went on to say that what had happened in this case was that the rumor of Bear Stearns imminent collapse hastened its downfall. Prophesy became reality almost overnight. Perhaps Mr. Norris had asked for those two offending words to be bleeped, not wanting to throw another log on the bonfire raging throughout Wall Street and the rapidly plunging economic outlook.
It does makes you wonder. Was the bleep accidental, pure coincidence or are we being protected from even worse financial news? The government is bailing out Bear Stearns. And Lehman Brothers seems poised for the next bailout. In truth, all of us are bailing out Bear Stearns. Is it possible this is happening without our being fully informed of how bleak the financial picture is for all of us middle class taxpayers? Once again we’re being asked to pick up the tab for the risky, reckless maneuvers of financial experts who just didn’t ‘see’ this collapse coming. Amazing.
Realizing that those two words were probably censored felt like a strange dream. I wonder if anyone else picked up on that.

Jan Bina, Blogger for In the Trenches Productions

Published in: on March 17, 2008 at 10:06 pm  Comments (1)  
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Hillary Clinton: Hold the “B” Word, Please

“By choosing a woman to run for our nation’s second highest office, you sent a powerful signal to all Americans. There are no doors we cannot unlock. We will place no limits on achievement.” — Geraldine Ferraro (1984)

Ferraro? “A four-million dollar…… I can’t say it, but it rhymes with ‘rich.’” — Barbara Bush

Twenty-Four Years. That’s how long it’s been since a woman (almost) made it to the top of America’s political ladder. Despite great strides by other women… some becoming members of Congress, Senators, even Governors, Nancy Pelosi’s 2002 election by her colleagues to lead Congress as Speaker of the House was the next major breakthrough into politics topmost ranks. Just two heartbeats from the presidency.

‘America. Love Her or Leave Her.’ That’s a catch-all phrase used by hard-liners to defend America against criticism. Right now… today… a political twist on that phrase might very well be ‘Hillary Clinton. Love Her or Hate Her.’ Has there ever been a single woman whose very name elicits both elation and revulsion within the ranks of everyday America? You’d be hard-pressed to find someone who rides the middle rail on the topic of Hillary Clinton. Polarization is an apt description of her effect on American politics.

‘Hillary Cries!’ the headlines shout when during a particularly emotional moment her voice faltered, cracked, and her eyes glistened. ‘Hillary Attacks!’ scream the pundits when she dares to disagree with a political rival. She’s cold… calculating. She’s a Bitch!

We live in a country consumed with propping up the idea of family. A country where songs that proclaim, ‘Stand By Your Man,’ reach the top of the charts. But Hillary Clinton, after standing by HER man following a series of, shall we say, indiscretions, has been called an enabler… a lesbian… a dealmaker who, if she had a scrap of pride, would have left him flat. I guess we listen more to the music than the words.

“I’ve been called some names I’d be embarrassed to repeat in public. I’ve learned that my hairstyles and fashion choices provide endless fodder for public discussion and dissection. You know sometimes I’ll walk by and see somebody on TV talking about what I’m wearing and they will have imbued it with great meaning, ‘She chose that color to send a certain message.’ I did? I’ve been told to smile more, I’ve been told to smile less. I’ve been told to speak more loudly, I’ve been told to speak more softly. I’ve been told to not speak very much at all.” — Senator Hillary Clinton

We can do better than this, can’t we? In subtle and not-so-subtle ways, the political process is rife with sexism. But say what you will about Hillary, this country… our daughters… owe this woman an incredible debt of gratitude. Regardless of whether she wins or loses the presidency, she has blown the top right off whatever glass ceiling remained in American politics. Watching her one-on-one debate with Senator Obama not long ago brought tears to my eyes. That this event could happen in my lifetime was not something I would have thought possible.

Give pause before unleashing the ‘B’ word or, worse, the ‘C’ word. Think about today’s young women, many intelligent, hopeful, and ambitious. They’re watching Hillary… and wondering if ambition and success are worth the price she’s paying. If not Hillary, then perhaps one of those young women WILL be a future president. Perhaps one will reach even higher.

Republicans, Democrats, and Independents – whether or not in agreement with her politics – must acknowledge the accomplishments and sacrifice that Hillary Clinton has made for America… and for our daughters.

As for me, I can only hope that someone gives her a copy of this post. If so, I’d like to say, from the heart, ‘Thank you, Hillary.’

Posted by Mandy Crest, Blogger for In The Trenches Productions, The First Entertainment Website for Women over 40!

Published in: on March 11, 2008 at 11:50 am  Comments (5)  
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A Musical Milestone for Women

    Sandra Day O’Connor, the first woman appointed to the Supreme Court, graduated in 1952 near the top of her Yale Law School class. Yet, the only job she was offered after graduation was that of legal secretary. What a contrast with today, when voters in this country seem totally comfortable with the notion of electing a woman to the most to powerful job in the world. It seems there are no more barriers for women to shatter. So, I was somewhat surprised to hear about a ‘first woman’ milestone that was recently achieved.
On September 27, 2007, the Baltimore Symphony made history when Marin Alsop became the first woman to head a major symphony orchestra. Reading about her made me realize why we need more women in leadership positions in classical music. Critics have written glowingly about her musicianship. Her credits and awards are impressive; in fact, she has just won the 2008 Theodore Thomas Award from the Conductors Guild. But what struck me was her approach to music as a way to create a relationship between orchestra and audience. In The Christian Science Monitor from September 26, 2007, Marin Alsop said, “Everything in life is about personal relationships – including the way one feels about music. I want to create as many opportunities for people to have that ‘aha’ moment – give people the chance to really connect with the composers.”
Marin Alsop’s style is to break the invisible wall between orchestra and audience. As noted in The Christian Science Monitor, “She talks to her audience, swiveling around on the podium and leaning over the rail to explain the composition about to be played.” Her goal is to make classical music accessible to everyone, to take it out of the realm of fusty elitism. Many people undoubtedly view classical music like taking medicine or doing a daily workout – something that’s a chore but will somehow make them a better person. Frankly, some days I’d rather listen to Huey’s “Pop, Lock & Drop It” than to some soporific string quartet. But Marin Alsop wants to make classical music a choice we joyfully embrace. I must admit I’d gladly spend my shrinking entertainment dollars on one of the inventive programs that she has created.
She is designing concerts that combine a traditional piece, Beethoven or Mozart, for example, with a selection by a contemporary composer. The January 7, 2008 issue of The New Yorker called her inaugural season “Startlingly ambitious…Eleven living composers make appearances.” She is building an audience for new music by inviting these prominent composers to discuss their works in public conversations. The “Composers in Conversation” series seems totally fascinating. How often do you have a chance to ask the next Stravinsky about their creative process, how a piece evolves from head to sheet music to concert hall?
Sounds great, you say, but you don’t live anywhere near Baltimore. Marin Alsop is bringing the Baltimore Symphony to you. She has brought technology to the symphony; live concerts and new recordings are now readily available. Concerts are broadcast live on XM satellite radio. At the Marin Alsop website, you can download tracks from the Baltimore Symphony to your iPod. Downloads are also available at iTunes. You can buy a Baltimore Symphony CD. After not recording in decades, the Baltimore Symphony is back in the studio. The musicians, by the way, are elated.
Like Leonard Bernstein, her beloved mentor, she is a conductor for the people. As noted in The Christian Science Monitor, “The people of Baltimore embraced Alsop without hesitation. They were charmed by her down-to-earth manner. The morning the box office opened for this season, hundreds of people lined up to buy tickets. Alsop joined them on line, serving doughnuts to sweeten the wait.” Talk about making a connection with your audience! In the early `70’s, I met the conductor Carlo Giulini backstage at the Chicago Symphony. Somehow the vision of this austere figure passing out doughnuts just doesn’t compute.
But it’s a new day and Marin Alsop is bringing much needed fresh air into the staid world of classical music. Orchestras in major cities are having trouble with funding. In fact, the Baltimore Symphony spent years in debt playing to small houses. Now, thanks to her dynamic personality and fresh approach, attendance is up. TV shows, like HBO’s current series “The Wire”, and before that, “Homicide: Life on the Streets”, paint a grim picture of Baltimore, but the actual city has much to celebrate with a new maestra in town!

Jan Bina, blogger for In The Trenches Productions
The First Entertainment Website for Women Over 40!

Naked Lies

What do you see when you stand naked in front of your mirror?To quote Carson Kressley, Lifetime Television’s flamboyant host of “How to Look Good Naked,”

“Are you perfect? No. – Are you beautiful? YES!

Carson is correct. In many ways, we are all beautiful. To prove it, he has taken on the herculean task of single-handedly setting out to redefine beauty. While others have tried, Carson may succeed, for he’s redefining beauty where it lives… in your mind.

For as long as I can remember, popular culture has done a disservice to women. It begins early – as toddlers we try to mimic our mothers and/or older sisters. We watch them try, usually in vain, to emulate female perfection as dictated between the front and back covers of the days’ popular beauty magazines, awash in airbrushed photographs of undernourished models, the final prints bearing little resemblance to the human beings upon which they are based.

Sometimes, in order to rebuild, one must first dismantle that which exists. As Carson escorts each woman into his dreaded ‘room of mirrors,’ you see, by the looks upon their faces, that this experience is, as promised, “a girl’s worst nightmare.” Knowing that unseen millions of viewers will, at this moment, render judgement, is crippling to most women. Few, if any… especially those who agree to partake in this exercise… feel that they live up to those deeply ingrained ideals of womanhood.

Two particular episodes come to mind:

Episode #1: Alea, a 27-year-old beauty, is ushered by Carson into the ‘room of mirrors.’ Alea is, by anyone’s standards, quite beautiful. Thin and sculpted, Alea is visibly horrified at her appearance. “When I look in the mirror, all I see is flaws,” she says. Wondering if we’re looking at the same woman, I turn to my husband, who comments, “That’s sad.” He’s right.

Episode #2: Layla, 32-years-old, has been at odds with her figure for twenty years. She spoke of herself as “disgusting,” and used the word “hate” when asked how she felt about herself. Layla was, indeed, unattractive, but it was her attitude and obvious self-loathing that made her so. With Carson’s encouragement, all that was about to change.

Alea and Layla found themselves in a line-up of sorts. Real women, not models, were ushered in for honest side-by-side comparisons with the girls. Later, they found themselves vamping for a professional photographer who provided proof-positive that they were each quite beautiful in their own right.

Over the course of the next few days these two women, each of who spent much of their youth feeling revulsion towards themselves, emerged from their self-imposed isolation and began to see and like themselves for who they are rather than as the ‘before’ photo in some beauty ad. They came to realize that what they always considered ‘faults’ had less to do with their bodies and more to do with their self-image and physical presentation.

This blog is for and about women over 40. Most of us have, inch by inch, revised our internal standard of what it means to be feminine so that it better coincides with the changes that we observe in our own lives and in those of our friends and family. We have a duty to encourage younger women, to share our hard-won knowledge.

Beauty, it has been said, perhaps once too often, is in the eye of the beholder. Nowhere is that cliché better put to the test than when the beholder is you and the beauty that you’re beholding is yourself.

Posted by Mandy Crest, Blogger for Women Over 40 Rock! and In The Trenches Productions

“Caramel”- A Comedy from Beirut

    “Caramel”, now in limited release, is a light comedy about the love lives of 5 women filtered through the activities in a Beirut beauty salon.  A female ensemble comedy set in strife-filled, war-torn Lebanon sounds like an oxymoron, right?  But this is really an entertaining film that’s worth seeking out.  It is the feature directing debut of Nadine Labaki, a veteran director of commercials and music videos.  In addition, she co-wrote the script and plays Layale, the beautiful owner of the salon.   This film has received one of the widest U.S. theatrical releases of an Arab film in years.   Go to the website for specific release dates: http://www.newamericanvision.com/Caramel.html

This film finished shooting weeks before the beginning of the Israel-Lebanon war in July of 2006.  Add that tension into the normal stress of completing a film!  Not that this film is about war, because it isn’t.  It is about the romantic intrigues of 5 women.  Only through glimpses of the crumbled infrastructure do we see the toll war has taken.  But these references become comedic devices, like the salon’s hand- cranked generator that’s fired up every time the electricity goes out.  This is because the director has great affection for her city and has dedicated the film “to my Beirut”.   Here Christian neighborhoods co-exist next to Muslim neighborhoods with their separate religious rituals and traditions.  This religious tolerance is reflected in the women’s friendships; some are Muslim, others are Christian, even Catholic.  One of the most incongruous sights was a priest-led parade of a large Blessed Mother statue winding its way through the streets of  Beirut right into the beauty salon for the shop’s annual blessing.

I found this film fascinating because we don’t often see the everyday lives of Arab women portrayed in film. What struck me were not the differences but the similarities in their lives and the lives of western women.  We think of Arab women as leading restricted lives, and mostly hidden behind yards of fabric.  The women in this film seemed independent, dressed in bright, stylish clothes and had strong, dynamic personalities, at times verging on campy, and somewhat reminiscent of the colorful women in Pedro Almodovar’s films.

The film is episodic, following 5 different story lines.  While the situations aren’t particularly original, setting them in Beirut gives the film its unique flavor.  Layale, the shop owner, is having an affair with a married man.  Because she is an unmarried Arab woman, she lives at home with her parents and shares a bedroom with her younger brother.  There is a lesbian character unable to live openly as a gay woman, who finds sensual pleasure shampooing the magnificent mane of an exquisitely beautiful customer.   One of the women is Muslim and about to be married.  Desperate to cover her past, she has minor surgery to restore the appearance of virginity for her wedding night. This type of surgery is not exclusive to Arab countries.  Not long ago, the Los Angeles Times ran a story about L.A. women going in for this very same procedure– promoted as a way to add a little spice to that special night.  No matter what culture, women can’t seem to escape the pressure to physically alter their bodies to please their men.

There is also the story of Auntie Rose an older woman working as a tailor while tending to her demented older sister; this sister thwarts Rose’s attempt to have a liaison.  Finally, there is a storyline of an older actress trying to appear younger and stay in the game.   As an actor who’s been on countless commercial auditions, I was laughing and wincing at the character’s clumsy attempts to appear youthful and radiant as she auditioned for a cosmetic commercial.

This film taps into what we all feel in searching for love – bliss, excitement, heartbreak, longing, frustration and jealousy.  Nadine Labaki has extracted fine performances from her cast and, with one exception, they are nonprofessionals.  So, kudos to this fine young director for discovering these “real” women and creating a wonderful ensemble piece that allows each of them to shine.  By the way the title refers to a depilatory method of sugar waxing with caramel.   You could see this as a metaphor for the things women do to look sweet for their men.  But it’s also an apt title for a film that is a bitter-sweet story about the strength of women’s friendships.
Jan Bina, blogger/In the Trenches Productions


Just saw Mandy Crest’s great Our Time Is Now blog, and it only reinforces the other reinforcement I came across…and one can never have too many reinforcements, as we all know.
Yesterday I read an article by Thea Singer in the Feb. edition of MORE magazine, and Singer has left me singing!
This article, “Power Surge”, reports on several studies that have followed women over many years (one for 5 decades) assessing various traits, including confidence, and guess what? Women in their 20s and 30s felt weak, incompetent and very unsure of themselves (no surprise to me, having been there). But in their 40’s these same women experienced an increase in confidence, felt that they had come into their own (as Mandy says), and that they could follow their own convictions no matter what others thought. Their sense of competency in their work and personal lives actually soared.
But how does the media portray most of us over 40? Dried-up and drifting from senior moment to senior moment. And I have to admit the media’s views of mid-life and older have always been tugging at my coattails, even though I knew that when I hit my 40s I was beginning to feel pretty good about myself. And then when I hit my 50s I even felt sort of complete…like I had come to know exactly who I was. BUT – as the 60s approached that nagging feeling that the media was right and it was all a mirage and I was really about to sink into the pool of senility grew ever stronger. Until – I read this article and all the info these studies had come up with. It, and then the follow up when I read Mandy’s blog, helped me realize what I had actually known all along – I have gotton better and better and better with age, and plan on continuing on this course.
So thank you, Ms. Singer, and Ms. Crest as well. And it couldn’t have happened at a better time, as I turn 66 this week. A better birthday prezzie I could not have hoped for!
Judith 66-and-lovin’-it Drake, Blogger for Women Over 40 Rock / In the Trenches Productions

Published in: on February 19, 2008 at 3:25 pm  Comments (4)  
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